Long before the word ‘creative’ was a word or like now, a descriptor for an actual I always thought that it was inherent to recognize someone in need and respond. Whether a small need or something quite tremendous, there is always someone in need. As a child, we went to church every Sunday and participated in communion, confirmation and all those ceremonies and never once did I think there was any other way. Do unto others as you would do unto yourself and help thy neighbor- it’s that simple.
I grew up watching my mother find time to care for ailing neighbors, for busy relatives, for fellow churchgoers, for anyone really who asked or demonstrated need. I realize now that it was my mother who, through her diligence and good nature, taught me to always ask “Is there anything that I can do for you?” before leaving a person. She was always 100% sincere with that question- always.
She also taught me that ‘God helps those who help themselves.’ Now, you can interpret that however you like. I always felt it was a bit judgemental in tone, growing up- I mean, not everyone can help themselves, all the time. But you have to try! For another time.
Back to “Is there anything that I can do for you?”
My mother taught me sooooo much by asking that little question How deep-rooted those gifts she gave me are! She taught me empathy, patience, selflessness and the wisdom to know that that is really why we are here on earth- to help one another. What gifts!
So here I am now, with a beautiful family and the privilege to do profound work with children, community and colleagues from all sectors. I still hear myself asking that question at the end of every visit, meeting, gathering- ‘is there anything that I can do for you?’
And people say, “but you are already so busy!” And I say, “no busier than anyone else who truly understands why we are all here.”
Give ‘that’ gift to your child- it’s as easy as letting them hear and see you ask that question- “Is there anything I can do for you?”